World Mental Health day

[Est.1865]

Giving this a boost, as, honestly, blowing off a bit of steam in here has helped..

I'm missing todays game due to my head.
I was OK until about 2am, then I had things 'go on'.
I've got a couple of therapy sessions next week, and I've set myself a few targets, so, hopefully I can get back on the NFFC fun bus.
I miss the people more than anything at the moment.

Keep posting on the LTLF fun bus. Stay safe.

 

[Strummer]

Blow off as much steam as you want - we’re all here for you. Sure the sessions will help and you’ll soon be crossing those targets off.
Take care.

^^^ That.

Many of us have been down the same road and come out the other end.

It’s good to talk!

 

[jtyorkshirered]

Giving this a boost, as, honestly, blowing off a bit of steam in here has helped..

I'm missing todays game due to my head.
I was OK until about 2am, then I had things 'go on'.
I've got a couple of therapy sessions next week, and I've set myself a few targets, so, hopefully I can get back on the NFFC fun bus.
I miss the people more than anything at the moment.

Keep going mate. Target setting is important, I always feel like creating those small wins for yourself throughout the week really helps me a lot too.

On that note, one thing I’ve done for a while on a daily basis with my mother is ‘three good things’ - at the end of each day, we note down three things to smile about, no matter how big, small or seemingly stupid they are. Good catchup with an old friend. Cooked a new recipe. Saw a nice sunset. Etc.

Sharing em with someone else really helps too, if you’re comfortable to.

Hoping that Forest can be on today’s list!


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[donny]

Keep going mate. Target setting is important, I always feel like creating those small wins for yourself throughout the week really helps me a lot too.

On that note, one thing I’ve done for a while on a daily basis with my mother is ‘three good things’ - at the end of each day, we note down three things to smile about, no matter how big, small or seemingly stupid they are. Good catchup with an old friend. Cooked a new recipe. Saw a nice sunset. Etc.

Sharing em with someone else really helps too, if you’re comfortable to.

Hoping that Forest can be on today’s list!


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Of course, small targets is always the thing.
I will say, my mums fantastic, over the past few months, shes been the one to make sure that I'm not doing anything stupid and the like.
The target is the Arsenal game. The rest until then is progress.

 

[donny]

Banging this up again.
Over the last few months, I've been going through the process of getting referred for various areas of treatment for mental health disorders.
I'm still awaiting appointments for a couple of them, but, I've been told that I'm on a waiting list, that is very long, and it could take up to 12 months for an appointment to come.
I have, however, been receiving therapy on a weekly basis over the last couple of months. Its going to be a very long process, and, I'm probably never going to be 100% right, but, one thing that came up, is that working in an environment where I was trying to convince myself that everything was going to be OK every day before going into work, has done me far more damage than it did good.
This isn't really surprising, and, its taken being told that this happens to many people, and isn't just me, makes me feel slightly better (but not massively).
Theres no real long term prognosis for anything, other than trying to do things that I find a bit of enjoyment in, even if they are difficult to do at this point in time.
Having support from my family, and those friends who I've confided in is great, and, I need to keep going on with that over the next few months and years.

 

[Bonfy177]

Banging this up again.
Over the last few months, I've been going through the process of getting referred for various areas of treatment for mental health disorders.
I'm still awaiting appointments for a couple of them, but, I've been told that I'm on a waiting list, that is very long, and it could take up to 12 months for an appointment to come.
I have, however, been receiving therapy on a weekly basis over the last couple of months. Its going to be a very long process, and, I'm probably never going to be 100% right, but, one thing that came up, is that working in an environment where I was trying to convince myself that everything was going to be OK every day before going into work, has done me far more damage than it did good.
This isn't really surprising, and, its taken being told that this happens to many people, and isn't just me, makes me feel slightly better (but not massively).
Theres no real long term prognosis for anything, other than trying to do things that I find a bit of enjoyment in, even if they are difficult to do at this point in time.
Having support from my family, and those friends who I've confided in is great, and, I need to keep going on with that over the next few months and years.

Good luck Donny, stick in and wait it out for any appointments it will be worth it in the long run pal,

I've done the same myself and I’ve found it helps you understand a lot of what we feel is normal, you’ll be given pointers and tips to help manage and things will get easier.

Credit to you also for fronting up as you’re doing .

 

[Cloughie1975]

Banging this up again.
Over the last few months, I've been going through the process of getting referred for various areas of treatment for mental health disorders.
I'm still awaiting appointments for a couple of them, but, I've been told that I'm on a waiting list, that is very long, and it could take up to 12 months for an appointment to come.
I have, however, been receiving therapy on a weekly basis over the last couple of months. Its going to be a very long process, and, I'm probably never going to be 100% right, but, one thing that came up, is that working in an environment where I was trying to convince myself that everything was going to be OK every day before going into work, has done me far more damage than it did good.
This isn't really surprising, and, its taken being told that this happens to many people, and isn't just me, makes me feel slightly better (but not massively).
Theres no real long term prognosis for anything, other than trying to do things that I find a bit of enjoyment in, even if they are difficult to do at this point in time.
Having support from my family, and those friends who I've confided in is great, and, I need to keep going on with that over the next few months and years.

Stick with it mate-let’s hope Forest can give you a lift.

 

[Rockabilly]

Banging this up again.
Over the last few months, I've been going through the process of getting referred for various areas of treatment for mental health disorders.
I'm still awaiting appointments for a couple of them, but, I've been told that I'm on a waiting list, that is very long, and it could take up to 12 months for an appointment to come.
I have, however, been receiving therapy on a weekly basis over the last couple of months. Its going to be a very long process, and, I'm probably never going to be 100% right, but, one thing that came up, is that working in an environment where I was trying to convince myself that everything was going to be OK every day before going into work, has done me far more damage than it did good.
This isn't really surprising, and, its taken being told that this happens to many people, and isn't just me, makes me feel slightly better (but not massively).
Theres no real long term prognosis for anything, other than trying to do things that I find a bit of enjoyment in, even if they are difficult to do at this point in time.
Having support from my family, and those friends who I've confided in is great, and, I need to keep going on with that over the next few months and years.

Wishing you all the best pal from me and the Geordie.

 

[donny]

So.
Therapy is going OK.
However, personal life has intervened, and something rather tragic has happened within my immediate family.
I'm feeling guilty as I don't really know how I should feel, and thats f***ing my head up.

 

[Master Yates]

So.
Therapy is going OK.
However, personal life has intervened, and something rather tragic has happened within my immediate family.
I'm feeling guilty as I don't really know how I should feel, and thats f***ing my head up.

Sorry to hear mate. But just wanted to say, however you feel is how you feel, there’s no right or wrong way to feel and we can’t help the way we react to things.

Similar to grief, you can’t predict how you will react or how it will manifest or even how it will evolve over time. You just have to roll with it and do your best, that’s all anyone can do.

If you are still in work, you can get access to some job based mental health support through Access to Work Mental Health Support Services. It’s not clinical, but they can help you with trying to manage your condition at work for up to 9 months. You can apply directly to either of the two providers and its free:

https://ingeus.co.uk/for-business/mental-health-support

https://atw.maximusuk.co.uk

Best of luck mate and remember, it will be alright in the end. If it’s not alright, it’s not the end…


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[Notcher]

So.
Therapy is going OK.
However, personal life has intervened, and something rather tragic has happened within my immediate family.
I'm feeling guilty as I don't really know how I should feel, and thats f***ing my head up.

You feel how you feel mate, there's no right or wrong way to feel and don't feel like you have have to be a certain way. Everyone processes grief in their own way. I lost my dad when I was 15 and I went football training that evening, it was my way of dealing with it. You'll probably be very busy at a time like this which tends to be the case and that never allows you to process it fully.

Just don't bottle things up, if your way happens to be different to those around you, just explain it to them and that can help prevent any conflict and also helps them to be less concerned if there's no genuine reason to be.

 

[Rockabilly]

So.
Therapy is going OK.
However, personal life has intervened, and something rather tragic has happened within my immediate family.
I'm feeling guilty as I don't really know how I should feel, and thats f***ing my head up.

Sorry to hear this donny.

 

[I'm Red Till Dead]

Banging this up again.
Over the last few months, I've been going through the process of getting referred for various areas of treatment for mental health disorders.
I'm still awaiting appointments for a couple of them, but, I've been told that I'm on a waiting list, that is very long, and it could take up to 12 months for an appointment to come.
I have, however, been receiving therapy on a weekly basis over the last couple of months. Its going to be a very long process, and, I'm probably never going to be 100% right, but, one thing that came up, is that working in an environment where I was trying to convince myself that everything was going to be OK every day before going into work, has done me far more damage than it did good.
This isn't really surprising, and, its taken being told that this happens to many people, and isn't just me, makes me feel slightly better (but not massively).
Theres no real long term prognosis for anything, other than trying to do things that I find a bit of enjoyment in, even if they are difficult to do at this point in time.
Having support from my family, and those friends who I've confided in is great, and, I need to keep going on with that over the next few months and years.

I'm so sorry to hear that you are struggling at the moment. As others have said stick with it and hopefully things will get better.

Hobbies can help take your mind off of things. I know that you like photography, so perhaps getting out for the odd shoot might help take your problems away for a while. Just a little walk now and again could help. My local college run mindfulness course each term a few hours a week where you can learn or expand one's arts/crafts experiences. Simple things like the colouring books give you the chance to concentrate on something other than your problems giving you a break from them. It can soumd twee but it can help. The thing is you don't have to be good at it, it's the process that helps.

Colouring books, watercolour painting, acrylic painting, marbelling, papercrafts, journalling, even knitting, all require you to concentrate on what you're doing reducing the time you spend on thinking about your problems. Did you know that Russell and Ryan Gosling knit? Arts and crafts might not cure your problems but might give you some breaks.

As I said, you don't have to be talented, I just scribble on paper or canvas and fill in the spaces with colour -

Or geometric designs like this

Not exactly high art, but fun and I quite like the results. You don't even need to be all that good at filling in as I put the black lines over the top at the end with a thick black permanent marker so hide most of the flaws where the colours meet. It also makes it 'pop' more.

You could try painting copies of some of your fabulous photos. With practice your painting would almost certainly get better.

I hope that you can work through your problems and come out the other side much stronger.

Take care Donny.

 

[donny]

Leaving the match out of today, had a couple of hours sleep, and I don't really feel like driving all that much, so, will be looking for a few other things to distract myself..
I hate missing matches, but, sometimes, its a necessity.

 

[T.B.T.]

Leaving the match out of today, had a couple of hours sleep, and I don't really feel like driving all that much, so, will be looking for a few other things to distract myself..
I hate missing matches, but, sometimes, its a necessity.

Take it easy, do something indulgent and moral boosting. A bit of self-love works wonders.

 

[Two Weeks Away]

 

[Two Weeks Away]

Has anybody used the Tricky to talk service? I’m booked in for tonight and was wondering what it was like